Dear Al, Your wisdom has been invaluable to me during these past four months. Thank you. I'm starting to learn that as much as I want my ex-partner to return to me, it may take many more months, or even years before she does. It is very likely she may never return. I may very well achieve my goal of vintage love with someone else, down the road, a long time from now. I am learning to accept all of these possibilities as potential realities. Because I'm on this quest, I want to do it the right way and the honorable way. One of the strongest compulsions I've had since my girl split with me, is the need to apologize to her. I know I would obtain some peace of mind from this, during this process of self-healing. I feel very guilty about my patterns of passive-aggressive behavior and the silent treatments I gave her. It was one of her main resentments. In an ideal situation, she and I are face-to-face, with me validating her resentments. If I am being realistic, I should know that I may never see her face-to-face ever again, or at least in the context that would allow for me to bring up such heavy topics. I'll tell you what I am thinking of doing: Because I don't want to frighten her, I would write her a letter. I would preface the letter stating that my intention of said letter is only to validate her resentments of the past in order to alleviate some of my guilty feelings, so that I might move on. She does not have to respond to this letter, she does not have to do anything but read it. And from there I would proceed to clear my conscious. If I go about writing this letter with the pure intention of what I stated above, would this be healthy? I don't believe I am jeopardizing a potential reunion, and there would be no provocation in it. At the very least, it would be invitational. Almost like an open letter, to Whom It May Concern, etc. but directed to her. Like I said before, this is just for my peace of mind, and if she somehow finds it endearing, that is up to her. For the record, it has been a little over four months. She leaves for school at the end of August. I am curious as to what you think about my idea and the timing of it. Thank you again sir, you have been most helpful! Sincerely, Johnny