Hi, Al. I like your site very much. I like your approach, and I find something helpful whenever I come here. I am that clinger, who not only pretended to be a space giver, but actually FELT like one in the beginning. Funny how that works, at first, when I felt safe, it was easy and natural. I'm married to that avoider, who probably really FELT he wanted closeness in the beginning too. Anyway, after 6 years, I'm feeling empty and apathetic. It's not likely that he is going to engage willingly in any kind of "relationship work" with me, in fact when I mention it he usually makes some comment containing the term "high maintenance", and you can probably imagine where that goes. I think my apathy is related to anger and disappointment, which of course are MINE. I'm guessing that he's feeling some similar things. This is my third marriage, and I am really not interested in starting over again. Also, I actually like and sometimes even love this person. I'm wondering if I just continue working through my "stuff" on my own, can I expect any positive feelings to come back? I don't want to give up, but I wonder if this apathy is telling me that it's time to let it go. What has been your experience with people feeling apathetic?