Dear Anonymous, Thanks for sharing your thoughts and decisions and especially your reasons for those decisions. I think one of the most difficult decisions is "When to Hold 'Em and When to Fold 'Em." (A friend from Texas was gonna write a book on this topic.) Obviously I support your decision to move on. As I often say, "my decision will be 'wrong' according to someone the minute I announce it," and "a good decision is one that you look back on from some time in the future and say, 'Hmmm. that was a good decision.'" And finally, "either it will work out or you will learn something from it. Either way you win!" These little phrases help keep me balanced. I encourage you to look further in my website and to deeply look at the Map of Relationships. Sounds as if this may contain some useful information for you in your journey. After seeing 2400 marriages I am used to the idea that "good well-matched couples" go through periods of unhappiness and move beyond those periods by learning new skills. Thus I don't think of "unhappiness" as a reason to quit, but a reason to learn. Also I am used to the idea that people always marry/match-up-with someone who at some time seems "not their type." Keeping quietbecause you don't want to hurt someone always seems foolish in the long run - even though most of us are trained that way. See my paper on how much to tell. I like your sentence, "What I am experiencing in the relationship now is most likely what I am going to experience in the next 10 to 20 years." I think this would be true if neither of you ever learned anything new. Successful relationships are all about learning and changing the way things are now. The core relationship fear is of being stuck, and your sentence sounds like that fear. I think that is all in your hands. You might want to read my paradoxical paper on It takes one to make a marriage, and two to make a divorce. Anyway, thanks for sharing and letting others see your thinking and learning. Keep in touch.