Hi Anonymous :) Sorry for the late reply. I do not want to just simply reply without really thinking out the answer. I did not take her back. The reason is because deep down I know eventhough I loved her, I was not happy when I was with her. The reason is because she was not really my type. It is pointless having a relationship with someone you are not happy with just because she has all the good qualities of a girlfriend. The reason I asked the question initially was because I was acting out of fear. By that I mean, when I was in the relationship, I knew I was not happy. But initially I did not dare to break it off because firstly, I did not dare to hurt her as she was very nice to me. Secondly, I was afraid that I could not find someone as nice and as loving as her. So, initially, I persisted in the relationship. But as day went by, it got harder and harder. In the end I realised, eventhough I will hurt her by leaving her, I will hurt her even more if I stay on the relationship. I also think staying in the relationship with the hope that it will get better is a futile exercise. What I am experiencing in the relationship now is most likely what I am going to experience in the next 10 to 20 years. If I am not happy in the first 6 months, chances are I won't be happy either in the future. So I guess I asked myself the following questions: 1. Was I happy when I am with her? I was, but not as happy as I would like to be (I could say this because I was much happier when I was with my previous ex) 2. I am thinking of going after her back. Is this because of my missing her or my fear of not finding someone else as nice as her? It was more of the later one. So, the answer was quite clear to me, although sometimes I had my doubts but I just had to reaffirm myself. You might also want to read the following links. These two links were also helpful for me back then: http://www.barbaradeangelis.com/advice_commitment.asp#1 http://www.barbaradeangelis.com/advice_BU_SO.asp#3 However, there was only one thing that I regret. I wish I did not break up in a rush. I should have asked for a time off to really think things through before reaching for a decision. It is difficult to make a decision when you are so close to the problem. Best of luck for your future. Hope this helps.