OK, I've been really struggling with this one. I apparently have an attraction to Narcissistic Personality types. The trait that seems the most troublesome is the lack of empathy. Now, the experts never seem to say whether the lack of empathy is fixable. That is...can a narcissist learn empathy? Or are they forever damaged and doomed to live in a narrow band of emotional sharing? Also, as a single person, I find it tempting to just try to find someone less narcissistic. But I'm told that my own traits will likely guarantee that I end up with someone with those traits. It all sounds terribly depressing.