Originally I was the clingy. I said too many I love you's and hugged my husband all the time. He asked me to back off. I work evenings so my husband is often alone, which I believe gives him enough space, but gradually I slowed down until I finally stopped all clinging. Still, he has moved out of our bedroom. We not only don't sleep together, but we rarely have sex anymore. We do very little together, so we've grown apart. As a result, I've become more and more distant, but he hasn't responded by persuing me. Am I still officially the clinger who must initiate a solution? I don't even feel like fixing it anymore.