I, too, have enjoyed how these posters generate family discussion and often growth. I recall a couple around Xmas time putting up several posters on their refrigerator for the season. Told me later that the whole family came together more because of those posters than because of the gifts under the trees! Wow. You might try saying, "Oh, I care. I care. I just want to remind myself of clear boundaries and responsilities. While I am not the cause of your feelings, I sure would like to help you with any feelings you choose to have that are distressing to you/ Can I help?" Al