Dear Sarah, Glad you are enjoying the "fare." I make up that everytime someone learns a bit from my website, there is a ripple of better relationships that spreads out into the world. Kind of humble and grandiose at the same time :) The Odd Dialogue does seem simple and elegant. I use it in my office when I am teaching couples Validation and PreValidation. I do this right after I have taught Mirroring - same session or next one. The phrase you mention is just to re-affirm some ideas in Mirroring. One of the lessons that Mirroring teaches is to think of the needs of your listener while you are talking to them. This involves learning to not talk too much or too fast for them. Specifically one needs to learn to make it easy to mirror by sending short phrases or sentences, letting them Mirror and Pull you, and then sending more short phrases. The idea is to send your whole point, being as concise as possible, and perhaps sending it in pieces, till it is all sent. I was not thinking of sending something over days, but life as a couple is really kind of like that - over years. You update your partner's knowledge of you, bit by bit. You learn their sense, too. Patience is a powerful requirement. Al