Thanks Tim, for dropping by. Glad that my discoveries were helpful. You might want to check out my articles on Guilt, Getting to Work, and "It only takes one to make a Marriage..." in reference to your situation. Years ago I read Harville Hendrix's book, (Getting the Love You Want) and was blown away by it. I red-lined all the important passages - something I hadn't done since college years ago. I was so amazed, that I handed it to my wife to read. My memory is that she threw it across the room. Some months later (that was her timing) she bought her own copy, without the redlines, and read it and was blown away. Then we both bought copies and sent them to our grown children. That incident marked the beginning of this great journey in our lives. It also showed the whole issue of synchronizing our progress. She moved/moves at a different pace (different drummer). Well hello, Al! Duh! My articles tend to be long or short depending on the topic. The Map is the longest, I think, because it was really the script for a planned DVD (never realized). It had to be complete in a bigger way than other articles. Most of my articles write themselves once I have completed the topic in my head and presented it to a couple of hundred couples, watched their reactions and then refined. Amazingly, once written, I have not rewritten much - they seem complete. Looking back I think the MAP's biggest contribution was giving me a new and very positive attitude toward the seemingly frivilousness of romance, the bitter pain of divorce, and the angry struggles of couples. I love 'em all. It also gave me a new appreciation for people who have doggedly tried marrying (living together) over and over. I think it nice to "know where I/people am/are." My best wishes to you and your partner. By the way, leading her into the University of Life is the only way to go, I think.