Hi Al, I must say it was a long read but a worthwhile one. I can see a lot of my relationship here. I just need to find a way to get my other half to open her mind and let her walls down enough to read it. I think she could use it as much if not more than me, as she is at her 3rd 'divorce' with me, while this will be my first. I am currently the clinger, trying to hold on and make it 'better', while she no longer loves me and seems to be running away from our problems, needing her space and me out of the house because 'It's over.' I want for us to work towards that vintage love, but would be happy for just being able to get along at the moment. I am planning to leave a printed copy of the whole 'Map of Relationships' somewhere she can stumble across it, and hope it catches her eye enough to start reading it. I have enrolled in this University of Life with the aim of getting great grades, and will hopefully be able to pass on to you, my teacher, how it all goes. Crossing my fingers, toes, and everything else though that the woman I still love and I can both make through to the vintage love I believe we can still find with each other. Thanks for the articles, and the hope they are giving me that I can do something to improve my current relationship, as hard and painful as the situation currently is.