This is a continuation of a discussion begun based on my paper on Safety and the Lizard Brain. An exercise in seeing the partnership of the reptilian brain, how it works, what it is trying to do. Click here for the original article on Safety.   more »

A Story from the Aztec People of Mexico. Quoted in M.Wheatley, turning to one another. (2001)   more »

A story I wrote ten years ago about raising children and the responsibility for doing a good job. I believe parents do their best, and frequently their best is not very good.    more »

A particular puzzle is how to relax other people when they get tense. This true story of an old cat may help - in a kind of backwards way.    more »

I learn a lot from the men in my men’s group. We talk of safety and validation all the time. Here is a story about wasting your energy on the wrong stuff - loving in a way that doesn't work.    more »

This story is about hopeless habit of pointing fingers at the action or the one who "angers you." I call it "Where to focus when you are upset."   more »

This is a story about the lessons of speaking up too fast. I call it "What to do if you interrupt someone?"   more »

I tell this story , as a gift from my friend Jack, to anyone I meet who has a short temper or who is around someone with a short temper.   more »

Persuading someone is quite a skill. I am not talking about manipulation. Here I am speaking of how to get someone to do what you want - openly and honestly.   more »

This seems to me the story of just about every addictive behavior I can think of. The person complaining is the one who's got to do something. Responsibility rests in the complainer.   more »

In Taoist perspective even good and evil lose their absolute character. I share this with people who firmly believe their point of view is the right one.   more »