I hope you are looking for a great relationship for yourself, the skills to get along well with anyone, and ways to make the world a better place.  If you have, I’ve got ideas to share with you.  Here are some topics:

• What to do when he/she leaves you?
• What to do when he/she won’t talk?
• What to do when he/she won’t make a decision?
• Help! What’s going on with Marriage? Here’s a Map
• Where to Start in making a better relationship?
• How to get rid of resentments?
• How to get him/her to do what you want?
• Stop the arguing. But what then?
• Whose fault is it, anyway?
• Did he/she do something “out of the blue?”
• Secrets! How much should you share?
• FAQ – The most asked questions and solutions.
• Having a Bad Day! What to do? 
• What is Empathy? You’ll need it.
• What is all this about being “victim?”
• Finding Mr. or Ms. Right
• Building and Rebuildling Trust?
• Boundary Skills?
• Boundaries in a Relationship?
• How to Use this Website?

I often get asked this, and fortunately for me the answer is clear. But let's state the question more clearly. If I am in a couple, a relationship, what do I/we focus on first, second, third, etc. to make things better. Ok, here we go. The answer arises from two different major principles: the Anna Karenina Principle and the Biological Dream.    more »

In many ways, I am a slow learner. I have used many white sheets of paper with a saying on it. I posted these on the walls at my home and at my office, to keep reminding me over and over until my thick brain “get’s it.” Here are a bunch of them.   more »

A friend of mine, Laura Lavigne, has talked me into spending two days with you all.  Sept 24^rd  and 25...   more »

Prompted by a friend on an online forum (MarriageAdvocates) I decided to share my view of Affairs. You might call this a Lizard view of Affairs. (This is not beginner material.)   more »

If you have arrived here interested in getting a wonderful partnership, or interested in how to do better, or interested in saving your marriage or that of friends, parents or children, or just interested in specifics of how peaceful partnerships work, you have arrived at a right place.

And all this is free for the reading. What can you loose? My good wishes to you all. Go 4 It!    more »

I have received requests to list books that have been, and are, important to me in developing my thinking. Here I will organize that list, and link them to Amazon.com, so that you can get them. This list will grow as I think of them. I am just listing the ones that have been repeatably, and durably, “hot” for me. Enjoy!   more »

How to approach relationship challenges? Tis all about applying knowledge of the Biological Dream and learning those skills. Tis all about knowing where you currently are on the Map of Relationships. Here are some examples.    more »

How about it? Want to learn to be empathic? Want to know when you aren't? Want to improve? I believe that more and more people will be talking about the “need for more empathy.” I believe that the primary cause of conflict in our families, our partnerships, our business, our marriages, our political communities, our churches, and in the world, is a pronounced lack of reliable empathic skills.    more »

I got this question, recently. Apparently in my Map of Relationships I have not described it enough. I guess I just referred to it as a "place" that people, all people want to go to. Well, ok, I'll share some thoughts on it.   more »

I believe that everyone needs a three-drawer tool box. Each drawer represents different tools or skills needed in life.    more »

This is a chart of my understandings of how intimate relationships work. Printable B&W and Color versions.   more »

Here are friends around the world who are sharing their links for 2008. If you can't find one here, check out the directory at Imago Relationships International (IRI)   more »

This is my response to a great set of questions posted on my article on the Problem with Expectations. But it covers so much territory, I decided to repond with an article. My thanks to the Poster.    more »

Well, it took me about 8 months of trying Advertisements on this site to decide I didn't need them. Over that time more than 67, 000 different people dropped by. Our advertising revenue was just over $100. I would rather give away $100 then have to see Ads that I don't know about or sometimes don't like. So away they go!    more »

People ask me how hard is a great relationship, and I am responding more and more that “it is not rocket science.” 

But I have come across an image, that isn’t far from what most of us think is “rocket science,” that may be helpful to you.

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Working for the long haul. Let's say you two make it through learning the skills critical to "getting along." Now what? Here's the view after you get over that first hump.    more »

This is an often requested list of brief definitions of my words. From time to time I will add to this list. Insert these words in the Search function on the front page of my website to see the articles where I use these terms.    more »

Hey, post your comments, now. Here are two essays by a friend about this website. Thanks WolfDeca.   more »

I’ve posted the unabridged Map of Relationships in both written script and narrated MP3 versions. Print the Map itself and use it as you read or listen along.    more »

In this article I want to share my view of the process getting a great relationship from the very widest perspective. I suggest that you read my paper on the Map of Relationship first to get this view.   more »

An open letter (probably with lots of typos) that I wrote to any and all Imago Therapists during my vacation in the mountains in early September 2005. In it I pose an important question. Is what I am doing "Imago?"   more »

Here is a short film, an advertisement, from down under.  I thought it priceless.  Thanks to Larry Weckbaugh for sending it on.  Click here  or on the link below.

http://al.turtlecounseling.com/Foolishmen.mpg

 

After many years of working with couples, I have come to this conclusion. Marriage, or an intimate partnership, takes two people. It takes both to decide to divorce and carry it through. But it takes only one of them to lead the way into a great relationship.   more »

A listing of possible relationship problems - linked to solutions.    more »