This is a beginner, Validation exercise. You are Uninformed at that point when you think your partner is doing something odd or that “doesn’t make sense to you.” If you were informed, you wouldn’t think it odd, and you would see your partner’s sense. Use this practice sheet to get good at Validating.
Continue reading →About guiding people into dialogical space.
Continue reading →I was amused to find that Einstein wrote about the same struggles I see in couples – who's point of view is the right one. Often a couple will say "we are arguing over the silliest of things." I usually reply, "I don't think so. I think you are struggling over something very important – who is boss. And this decision can seem like life and death." Here is more about this topic.
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This is an often requested list of brief definitions of my words. From time to time I will add to this list. Insert these words in the Search function on the front page of my website to see the articles where I use these terms.
Continue reading →This is the script of a DVD of the full form of the Map of Relationships. Part VI, Questions and Answers.
Continue reading →This is the script of a DVD of the full form of the Map of Relationships. Part V, the Other Doors.
Continue reading →This is the script of a DVD of the full form of the Map of Relationships. Part III of the Map of Relationships. Compares Romantic Love and Vintage Love. Romantic Love always, always always ends. It has to. Anyone who says it doesn't might be selling snake oil.
Continue reading →So what, after all is said and done is this thing called MasterTalk? I believe that because of some features of our language system we can speak things that do not exist. I see MasterTalk as a way of speaking from the omniscient point of view ? which exists in literature but not in real life.
Continue reading →This is a letter I wrote to the Peace Project concerning my group's self-defined standards of Communologue.
Continue reading →Probably no question has been put to me so often these days as to what I mean by the phrase “Make Sense.” The Diversity Principle: “All people make sense all the time,” is for me one of the most useful tools I've come up with. It allows me to connect with people who are doing things that I don?t at first understand or like. It allows me to continue to more and more fully understand myself. It is a keystone tool in helping people build self-esteem. And it is a tool that stands up clearly, setting me against what I call “the pathology of our culture.”
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