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Handouts for Anacortes Classes

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on October 22, 2014 by AlNovember 1, 2015

These are the Graphics/Handouts for my classes in Anacortes, WA. I don’t know if we will use them, but I think it’s nice to have them available to refer to.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, fault, make sense, peace, safety, trust

The Road to Empathy: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 2, 2014 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019 5

How about it? Want to learn to be empathic? Want to know when you aren't? Want to improve? I believe that more and more people will be talking about the “need for more empathy.” I believe that the primary cause of conflict in our families, our partnerships, our business, our marriages, our political communities, our churches, and in the world, is a pronounced lack of reliable empathic skills.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, need for connection, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 5 Replies

Affairs and How I Approach the Topic

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 1, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 7, 2014 8

Prompted by a friend on an online forum (MarriageAdvocates) I decided to share my view of Affairs. You might call this a Lizard view of Affairs. (This is not beginner material.)

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Posted in Main Page, Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, feelings, need for connection, point of view, safety, trust | 8 Replies

Combating Loneliness

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 12, 2012 by AlJanuary 3, 2016 3

A short essay on the new phenomenon of Living Alone.  Seems that this is preferable to being in a relationship where you feel alone.  If your partner feels alone, what can you do to change this and prevent it?  What can you do to not feel alone yourself?  What can you do to impress a new acquaintance that they won't have to feel alone – with you?

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Posted in Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, mirroring, peace, point of view, pulling, share, trust, validation | 3 Replies

Triage: Seeing trouble in Relationships Around You

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 7, 2012 by Al TurtleNovember 25, 2014 1

I am beginning to use the word Triage to apply to the question, "How much should I get involved? How much energy is it wise to expend on this person? / this couple?"

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Posted in Boundaries, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, pulling, share | 1 Reply

Getting to Work

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 20, 2012 by Al TurtleOctober 21, 2014 12

Work, Work!  In this article I want to share my view of the process of how to get a great relationship from the very widest perspective. I suggest that you read my paper on the Map of Relationship first, to prepare to  grasp this view.

 

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, choice point, dialogue, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, university of life, validation | 12 Replies

What to do when He/She Leaves?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on October 11, 2010 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019 730

People frequently come to me with this problem. Some years ago I came up with an answer and have not felt the need to change it. It works. Follow the four steps.

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Posted in Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, fault, feelings, pulling, safety, share, trust | 730 Replies

Points of View

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on September 18, 2010 by Al TurtleJuly 27, 2017 8

Relationship confusion. Though I have written many times about this topic, I still find it the hardest for people to grasp. And in all my experience of relating, in starting a relationship, recovering one, maintain a high reliable quality of connection, this is the most important. Here is another attempt to make the relational situation clearer. [I’ve also been reminded that this is Advanced Relationship material – not for beginners.]

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | 8 Replies

Using Al Turtle Logic on Relationship Troubles

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 1, 2010 by Al TurtleApril 13, 2013 16

How to approach relationship challenges? Tis all about applying knowledge of the Biological Dream and learning those skills. Tis all about knowing where you currently are on the Map of Relationships. Here are some examples.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, boundary, choice point, dialogue, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, passivity, safety, share, trust, university of life, validation | 16 Replies

The Other Feelings

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleOctober 23, 2014 2

For years I have been teaching and “thinking” about Feelings. I have been teaching what I call , the Four Prime Feelings for years: Fear, Anger, Sorrow, and Joy. But more and more I have become aware of a set of feelings that are very important and which are not usually called emotions. I think they are.

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Posted in Feelings and Emotions, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, mirroring, need for connection, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

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